I lived in five states in the past six years. I spent 29 years in Illinois before making my first move – New York City. Since then, I spent time in Colorado, Texas, Arizona, and now I am in California for an indefinite period. I have driven over 30,000 miles in about 3 1/2 years. I visited the national parks in Utah, spent a night at the Red Rocks in Nevada, camped a week in Yosemite, and saw my first buffalo in South Dakota on vacations, drove to Texas for a job, stopped off in Skokie to see my parents, and then moseyed on back to my home in Denver. I have also had over a handful of jobs since leaving my full-time position in December of 2017. I worked on a food truck, cashiered in a restaurant, screened movies for a film festival, written articles for a real estate magazine, approved videographers and photographers for a city festival, completed spreadsheets and filing for a CPA (aka my mom), dog sat, swept debris from condos for a contractor, and learned to make reuben sandwiches in a food booth.
In 2012, I felt stagnant. I had worked at my office job since 2007, lived in the same apartment since 2006, and was still in my hometown. I never woke up depressed or dreading the day, but I wondered when changes would happen. I saw others around me find jobs that nourished their soul or make life changing decisions that put the widest smiles on their faces, while I continued living in my metaphorical box where I made sure I always knew what was coming to me. I chose comfort over risk. I wanted change, but was too scared to step outside that box.
I can still feel this way, and a lot of the time I still think I live my life this way, but through other people’s eyes, they tell me I am not like that at all and say how brave it is to have made all those changes, moved so many times, jumped into jobs and situations where the outcome was unknown. From my perspective, I do not see the bravery, nor do I see the excitement in it. I enjoy what I am doing today, but cannot step back from it and observe the beauty in it.
A few people who I am extremely close to have inspired me to write about it. Through their eyes, my travels are titillating and potentially inspiring. Through their eyes, I have done a lot and have a lot to share. Maybe it is my ego that prevents me from seeing the impact of the past six years, or that self-deprecating voice that pops up and says, “Write about your life? C’mon now. B-O-R-I-N-G.” I have found it is best not to listen to myself anyways. But I also know writing must be inspired from within, so here I begin.
My blog is my comfort zone. I began this blog back in 2010, where I sat in my apartment in Skokie, all by myself, watching 100 movies and writing reviews on them all in the course of six months. I worked, watched movies, and wrote, always knowing what the next day would hold. Today, I sit in an AirBNB with a man who I have known three years and is still so much a stranger to me, in a city I have never heard of before yesterday. I do not know where I am sleeping tomorrow night, how long I will be in California for, or where my next pay check will come from. The lack of the “knowns” does not make me consciously uncomfortable anymore, so maybe that is why I do not see this lifestyle as being worthy of writing about. But others say I am wrong in that regard, and more often than not, the influence from others is more accurate and powerful than that which comes from my own thoughts and insights. So, here I start in my comfort zone, writing about my changes, hoping it bleeds out into a Microsoft Word document that leads to multiple pages of brilliant writing on my life. A life I see as ordinary, but am trusting others will see as significant.